13 Precious Advices

Rudolf Dreikurs approaches education through the eyes of a child:

  1. Don’t make me feel smaller than I really am because then I need to pretend that I am the greater of all.
  2. Don’t yell at me in front of the crowd. I will pay more attention if you talk to me in a calm way when we are just the two of us.
  3. Don’t always protect me from the consequences! Sometimes it is the best way to learn.
  4. Don’t make me feel that my mistakes are sins. This confuses all the values I have learned to recognize.
  5. Don’t pay too much attention when I am in a bad mood. It’s my way to gain the attention I am asking for.
  6. Don’t constantly make negative remarks to me. Otherwise, I am going to pretend I am not hearing you.
  7. Don’t pamper me. I know that I cannot always have everything I am asking for.
  8. Don’t give me frivolous promises. I feel despised when you do not keep them.
  9. Don’t ignore me whenever I ask you something. If you do so, I will get my information from other sources.
  10. Don’t fall into contradictions. I lose my faith in you and you confuse me.
  11. Don’t try to convince me that you are perfect and infallible. I get socked when I find out that you are not.
  12. Don’t be upset when I say “I don’t like you”. Don’t take it personal I refer to the strength you have to oppose me.
  13. You should never think that your esteem will be damaged if you ask for forgiveness. When you honestly recognize your mistakes I feel warmer towards you.